“We were discussing homosexuality because of an allusion to it in the book we were reading, and several boys made comments such as, “That’s disgusting.” We got into the debate and eventually a boy admitted that he was terrified/disgusted when he was once sharing a taxi and the other male passenger made a pass at him.The lightbulb went off. “Oh,” I said. “I get it. See, you are afraid, because for the first time in your life you have found yourself a victim of unwanted sexual advances by someone who has the physical ability to use force against you.” The boy nodded and shuddered visibly.“But,” I continued. “As a woman, you learn to live with that from the time you are fourteen, and it never stops. We live with that fear every day of our lives. Every man walking through the parking garage the same time you are is either just a harmless stranger or a potential rapist. Every time.” The girls in the room nodded, agreeing. The boys seemed genuinely shocked. “So think about that the next time you hit on a girl. Maybe, like you in the taxi, she doesn’t actually want you to.”
—
Homophobia: The fear that another man will treat you like you treat women.
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(Source: andrewsullivan.thedailybeast.com, via thatcub)
20:46
5-16-12
53,257 notes
![stfuconservatives:
cruelyouth:
ceepolk:
thinkspeakstress:
trubr0wn:
invisibleblackunicorn:
trubr0wn:
madamethursday:
[Image: A picture of a tall, very thin Black woman with her shoulder over a shorter, older white man wearing traditional Orthodox Jewish clothing on a New York sideway.]
staghunts:
“This one is very serious, guys:
I came upon these two on the sidewalk. They were having a conversation. “Excuse me,” I said, addressing the girl: “I’m sorry to interrupt, but is there anyway I can take your photo?”
“Why would you want my photo?” she asked.
“Because you look beautiful,” I said. And she did. She was Sudanese. There is a very distinct beauty among people from the Sudan, and she was filled up with it. Suddenly the man cut in:
“I was just telling her she was beautiful,” he said.
Naively, I assumed I had just walked up on one stranger giving a compliment to another. I wanted to capture the moment. “Let me take your photograph together,” I said. The man seemed reluctant, he started smiling nervously and inching away. But the girl called him back.
“Come take a picture with me,” she said. Encouraged by her attention, he returned. She put her arm around him, and I took the photo.
As I examined the photos on my camera, the man started whispering to the girl. She answered him in a loud voice: “I told you! I’m not that kind of girl.” She seemed agitated now. Finally sensing that I had misread the situation, I stepped between them. The man began hurrying down the sidewalk.
When the man left, the girl’s demeanor changed completely. She seemed shaken. Her eyes were tearing up. “He just offered me five hundred dollars to go out with him,” she said. “And then when I said ‘no,’ he offered me one thousand. Why does this always happen to me?”
“It happens a lot?” I asked.
“All the time,” she said. “I’m sorry I’m getting emotional. I just can’t go out of my house without this kind of thing happening. I have a son. I’m a mother. I would never degrade myself like that. I just don’t understand why this keeps happening.”
“Do you mind if I tell this story?” I asked.
“Please,” she said. “Tell it.”
Let’s hope this man, and all men, realize the emotional damage they are inflicting on the women they try to buy. In the meantime, feel free to SHARE.*
Dear Tumblr, fuck you for trying to erase this.
I’m saving this post because as many times as Tumblr tries to erase this woman’s story and act like anything about this was okay, that’s as many times as I’m reposting it. They can either cut me off or stop being assnuggets about this. whichEVER.
i will always reblog this. because if this woman were white, the mass-erasure of this image and story would not be happening. and that just speaks volumes to me. the bigotry that contributes to this woman’s constant harassment is the same bigotry that led to the erasure of this story in order to ‘protect’ this man. they are COMPLETELY connected. this is a vicious cycle that perpetuates anti-blackness and the degradation and silencing of black women and women of color as a whole.
oh look trubr0wn just deployed more truth bombs.
i am the truth bomb terrorist.
FUCK YOU TUMBLR. I will reblog this every god damn twelve hours. You will NOT erase this woman’s story just because HONY is a bigot who is full of shit. Tumblr staff is full of shit. They are ALL full of shit. And fuck every single one of you shitty people for thinking that you’re going to win. You will NOT.
Hey this disappeared off my tumblr how strange
anyway, here it is again, supporting this lovely lady who has to put up with this crap just because she exists and goes outside, and to call shame on a society that would actually force her to put her arm around the creep who just upped his price after she told him that she wouldn’t whore for him
Here it is, calling attention to the FACT that the aggressor, the perpetrator of this outrage was the one protected, and the victim is just supposed to disappear
To that I say no
no
Open season on Black women is OVER.
I’m going to back up my Tumblr.
But I just want to see if Tumblr will ignore the e-mail I just wrote to them getting unwanted messages by users I’ve told to leave me alone and will send me another e-mail about “violating copyright,” if not try to delete my blog for reblogging this picture and story that needs to be seen and heard.
I’m not claiming ownership of anything, BTW. Picture, story behind the picture, and the erasure of the picture copyrighted2012 by humansofnewyork.tumblr.com . And reblogging this picture has an educational reason behind it — to show how black women are dehumanized, and then silenced if they ever speak out.
Tumblr deleted this post from everyone’s blog. Here it is again. And people have saved copies to their computers, including me. Story’s not going away. The internet is forever.
-Jess](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m3v4ahIMJ41qlxu8ho1_500.jpg)
stfuconservatives:
cruelyouth:
ceepolk:
thinkspeakstress:
trubr0wn:
invisibleblackunicorn:
trubr0wn:
madamethursday:
[Image: A picture of a tall, very thin Black woman with her shoulder over a shorter, older white man wearing traditional Orthodox Jewish clothing on a New York sideway.]
staghunts:
“This one is very serious, guys:
I came upon these two on the sidewalk. They were having a conversation. “Excuse me,” I said, addressing the girl: “I’m sorry to interrupt, but is there anyway I can take your photo?”
“Why would you want my photo?” she asked.
“Because you look beautiful,” I said. And she did. She was Sudanese. There is a very distinct beauty among people from the Sudan, and she was filled up with it. Suddenly the man cut in:
“I was just telling her she was beautiful,” he said.
Naively, I assumed I had just walked up on one stranger giving a compliment to another. I wanted to capture the moment. “Let me take your photograph together,” I said. The man seemed reluctant, he started smiling nervously and inching away. But the girl called him back.
“Come take a picture with me,” she said. Encouraged by her attention, he returned. She put her arm around him, and I took the photo.
As I examined the photos on my camera, the man started whispering to the girl. She answered him in a loud voice: “I told you! I’m not that kind of girl.” She seemed agitated now. Finally sensing that I had misread the situation, I stepped between them. The man began hurrying down the sidewalk.
When the man left, the girl’s demeanor changed completely. She seemed shaken. Her eyes were tearing up. “He just offered me five hundred dollars to go out with him,” she said. “And then when I said ‘no,’ he offered me one thousand. Why does this always happen to me?”
“It happens a lot?” I asked.
“All the time,” she said. “I’m sorry I’m getting emotional. I just can’t go out of my house without this kind of thing happening. I have a son. I’m a mother. I would never degrade myself like that. I just don’t understand why this keeps happening.”
“Do you mind if I tell this story?” I asked.
“Please,” she said. “Tell it.”
Let’s hope this man, and all men, realize the emotional damage they are inflicting on the women they try to buy. In the meantime, feel free to SHARE.*
Dear Tumblr, fuck you for trying to erase this.
I’m saving this post because as many times as Tumblr tries to erase this woman’s story and act like anything about this was okay, that’s as many times as I’m reposting it. They can either cut me off or stop being assnuggets about this. whichEVER.
i will always reblog this. because if this woman were white, the mass-erasure of this image and story would not be happening. and that just speaks volumes to me. the bigotry that contributes to this woman’s constant harassment is the same bigotry that led to the erasure of this story in order to ‘protect’ this man. they are COMPLETELY connected. this is a vicious cycle that perpetuates anti-blackness and the degradation and silencing of black women and women of color as a whole.
oh look trubr0wn just deployed more truth bombs.
i am the truth bomb terrorist.
FUCK YOU TUMBLR. I will reblog this every god damn twelve hours. You will NOT erase this woman’s story just because HONY is a bigot who is full of shit. Tumblr staff is full of shit. They are ALL full of shit. And fuck every single one of you shitty people for thinking that you’re going to win. You will NOT.
Hey this disappeared off my tumblr how strange
anyway, here it is again, supporting this lovely lady who has to put up with this crap just because she exists and goes outside, and to call shame on a society that would actually force her to put her arm around the creep who just upped his price after she told him that she wouldn’t whore for him
Here it is, calling attention to the FACT that the aggressor, the perpetrator of this outrage was the one protected, and the victim is just supposed to disappear
To that I say no
no
Open season on Black women is OVER.
I’m going to back up my Tumblr.
But I just want to see if Tumblr will ignore the e-mail I just wrote to them getting unwanted messages by users I’ve told to leave me alone and will send me another e-mail about “violating copyright,” if not try to delete my blog for reblogging this picture and story that needs to be seen and heard.
I’m not claiming ownership of anything, BTW. Picture, story behind the picture, and the erasure of the picture copyrighted2012 by humansofnewyork.tumblr.com . And reblogging this picture has an educational reason behind it — to show how black women are dehumanized, and then silenced if they ever speak out.
Tumblr deleted this post from everyone’s blog. Here it is again. And people have saved copies to their computers, including me. Story’s not going away. The internet is forever.
-Jess
(via poison--paradigm)
7:58
5-16-12
12,363 notes
~Witchhboy is having a 20% off sale~
My sister’s store, Witchhboy, is having a 20% off sale on everything. Original artwork, handmade accessories, zines, handmade clothing, patches and jewelry.
Check it out, yo
http://www.facebook.com/Witchhboy
http://witchhboy.bigcartel.com/
16:41
5-15-12
a hearty beast: What Does a Real Ally to the Trans* Community Look Like?
angrybanette:
ftmfeminist:
People have been blowing up my dash lately on the subject of being a cisgender ally. From reading my dash, you would think such an ally is like this three-headed fictitious magical creature from a parallel universe, because everyone who so desperately wants…
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7:55
5-15-12
50 notes
winterontheweekand:
Hey all, this is me just posing for a shoot I’ve just done! Hope you all love it! xo
CHLOE WHY ARE YOU SO PRETTY AND HOLY TITS THIS IS AMAZING
21:13
5-14-12
14 notes
Anonymous asked: I LOVE YOUR BLOGGG!!
Thank you, anon c:
19:53
5-14-12
1 note
shannatheartist asked: I am sorry to read that you have friends who act like being trans is the only thing that defines you. I've been following you awhile now and I enjoy your Tumblr.
It’s not just friends, it’s acquaintances or some people in general. I feel like I am just being tokenized at times. Thanks. Glad you like it
19:49
5-14-12
3 notes
You do not have permission to out me.
Just because I am transgender, you do not have permission to out me. It is not okay.
Just because I am and have to in a way, be open to several people about being trans (due to situation reasons), you do not have permission to out me.
By doing this my trust for you will be lost.
You do not introduce people like this “Hi, this is my friend ____, OH BY THE WAY THEY’RE CISGENDER AND STUFF AND THEY HAVE [insert genitals here] HAHAH ISN’T THAT SO COOL HAHAH”
So you should damn well never introduce me like this ”Hi, this is my friend Ruben, OH BY THE WAY HE’S TRANSGENDER HE HAS A VAGINA BUT HE’S ON HORMONES AND WILL BE GETTING SURGERY AND STUFF HAHA ISN’T THAT COOL I LOVE HAVING TRANS* FRIENDS IT’S SO INTERESTING HAHAH LET ME TELL YOU EVERYTHING OK”
You are not being “supportive”. You are putting me in a position of potential danger. Not everyone in the world is superhappygoluckyacceptingoftrans*people. There are some people in the world who may feel the need to beat the trans* out of me.
Do not make assumptions. Do not assume that I’m questioning my gender or just haven’t sorted it out yet. I am pretty damn sure of it, and it’s not your business anyway, or your position to decide whether or not I am sure. If you are not sure of my preferred pronouns, JUST ASK POLITELY.
Do not think that just because you are cisgender that you suddenly have the entitlement over me to ask me anything and everything. Do not get fucking uppity when I call you out.
My being transgender is not just a nice table-conversation. It doesn’t need to be the topic of conversation every time I’m around. I so happen to be transgender. Okay. That’s all. The end. It doesn’t need to be talked about all the time. I am not ashamed of being transgender in the slightest, but understand that that is not all of who I am. There is more to me than just being transgender.
If you get my pronouns right and my name right and meet these expectations fucking good for you. I am not going to give you a fucking cookie and tell you how amazing you are and how grateful I am to have you accept me. I expect you to treat me as a fucking human being and have decent respect and manners.
Do not whine and say “OMG IF YOU ACT LIKE THIS YOU’RE ATTACKING US UGH HOW CAN YOU EXPECT ANYONE TO BE AN ALLY FOR YOU” or “NOT ALL CIS PEOPLE ARE LIKE THAT GOSH YOU SHOULD BE GRATEFUL”
I am aware that not ALL cis people are blatantly rude and idiotic. You don’t need to tell me that in order to justify yourself. Nor do you need to silence me or my frustrations.
19:23
5-14-12
20 notes
“
Women stick their necks out to say that something is fucked-up, hurtful, oppressive, scary: Misogynist. They do this knowing full well that there will be social consequences. Remarkably, we’re all familiar with the idea that the women who do this are bitches/ugly/humorless/scolds/delusional (“you see sexism everywhere”)/hysterical/oversensitive/insensitive/etc. We know that we take on most of the risk, in this conversation. We know that we have to be very careful in terms of what we say, and to whom; that we will be expected to choose our targets and our words very carefully, seem “understanding,” seem “empathetic,” make all the right allowances, be oh so very polite. We labor over our words, swallow our anger, push through our fear (and most women who bring themselves to make these kinds of statements are very afraid of reprisal; we know it happens, in overt and subtle ways, pretty much every time), construct these carefully tortured and worked-out sentences; we work at this shit.
And then, after all that work, some dude makes a joke about how we need some dick — not even a joke he’s had to work on, really; that line’s been around forever — and everybody laughs, and it’s over. We get no apology. We get no consideration. We get no hearing. We get nothing. What this exchange ultimately proves to women, every time it’s played out, is that no matter how hard we work, we will never matter. We will never be heard. It’s just the same fucking thing, every day, like a punch to the gut: You think you can change shit? You think I care how you feel? You think I care what you think? No. Never. You think it fucking matters that you don’t like what I do to you? It doesn’t. I’m gonna fucking do what I want to you. Sit the fuck down, shut the fuck up, and take it. Or else I’m gonna tell everyone what a bitch you are, that you won’t play my game. My very special game, that I designed. And here are the rules for the game: You Lose.
”
—
backleftlitz: “If Tegan and Sara Need Some Hard Dick, Hit Me Up!” - Sady Doyle
So true it hurts. (via theamburglar)
Tears.
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(Source: sadydoyle, via likewackingoff-itgetsyouoff)
16:52
5-14-12
2,689 notes
thatcub:
This is my twin sister, she is sincerely one of the most important things in my life.
6:02
5-14-12
7 notes
binding issues
fuckyeahftms:
hey guys, it’s me again. I got some great advice last time I asked a question here, so thought I’d try again.
I have a bit of a problem with my chest..it feels like my sternum needs to pop, but when I tried it just got worse and now there’s a lump and it hurts to breathe deep without my binder on.
I know a lot of guys have to pop their sternum from wearing the binder, so is there some special trick to it? it’s starting to bug me now after a few days.
thanks!
khaden
Hey Khaden, it sounds like you may have dislocated your sternoclavicular joint which can cause pain and popping in the sternum. OR it could be your xiphoid process, swollen from too much pressure on your chest area. Have recently lost weight at all? Try drinking lots of water and taking Abscorbic Acid, Amoxicillin and anti-stress tabs. I wouldn’t say it’s anything life threatening or huge to worry about but it can cause a lot of discomfort. Though I will say I am not a doctor and may be wrong, so you see a doctor about it when you can.
Good luck c:
22:47
5-13-12
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